Connect with Chaya:
In this raw, honest, and deeply insightful conversation, host Karen Spece sits down with Chaya Garcia, the Epic Love Expert, relationship and dating coach, to explore the invisible patterns that keep women stuck in cycles of toxic relationships and exactly how to break free.
Chaya’s own story is where it all begins. At 26, she had two psychology degrees, a master’s, a fit body, a house, a car, and a good job and a boyfriend who left her to do drugs at a festival upstate. Instead of blaming him, she asked herself a more powerful question: how did I attract this? That single shift sent her down a 20-year deep dive into codependency, narcissism, love addiction, and the invisible mechanics of attraction and ultimately into a thriving marriage, a family, and a coaching practice that is changing women’s lives.
In this episode you’ll discover:
- Why successful, accomplished women end up in abusive or neglectful relationships and what’s actually driving it
- The concept of the “Love Lighter” identity and how shifting who you believe you are transforms who you attract
- The only two relationship patterns that exist: love (consistent, calm, prioritized) vs. exchange (a spectrum of being used) and how to tell the difference on date one
- The three components of self-love that form the foundation of healthy relationships: protection, acceptance, and forgiveness
- Why fear of abandonment and fear of failure are the two forces keeping women in relationships they should have left years ago
- How narcissism, addiction, and control show up on a first date and the specific red flags that scientifically predict relationship failure
- Why your environment may matter more than your mindset when you’re trying to heal
- The powerful concept of “illness by proximity” and why sometimes you have to move your whole life to move forward
Chaya also gives a sneak peek at her upcoming book, The Little Pink Book, a practical, science-backed guide to dating that teaches women exactly what to look for, what to ask, and what to walk away from before it’s too late.
Free Resource from Chaya: 9 free videos covering the most common dating mistakes women make — available at marriedin2025.com
Ready to work with Chaya? Book a free discovery call at connectwithchaya.com
Follow her on social media at @epicloveexpert
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